{"id":51682,"date":"2026-03-26T12:15:43","date_gmt":"2026-03-26T09:15:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/binkelam.com\/?p=51682"},"modified":"2026-03-26T12:15:43","modified_gmt":"2026-03-26T09:15:43","slug":"kusursuz-olmaya-calismak-nasil-birakiriz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/kusursuz-olmaya-calismak-nasil-birakiriz\/","title":{"rendered":"Kusursuz Olmaya \u00c7al\u0131\u015fmak: Nas\u0131l B\u0131rak\u0131r\u0131z?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bu yaz\u0131ya ba\u015flarken ortaya iyi bir i\u015f \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131 isterim. Konu ilgi \u00e7eksin, imla hatalar\u0131, kopukluklar, \u00e7ok uzun c\u00fcmleler olmas\u0131n. Okuyanlar hem be\u011fensin, hem de i\u015flerine yaras\u0131n. Bunlar\u0131n hepsini isterim ama <a href=\"http:\/\/binkelam.com\/kusursuz-olmaya-calismak-neden-bu-kadar-yorucu-black-swan\/\"><strong>kusursuz olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak<\/strong><\/a> bana g\u00f6re de\u011fil. Yazar\u0131m, defalarca tekrar bakar\u0131m, yanl\u0131\u015f buldu\u011fum \u015feyleri d\u00fczeltirim. Bir noktada i\u00e7ime siner. \u201cDaha iyi, daha da iyi olabilir\u201d diye \u00e7ok fazla zorlamam. Bu, daha \u00e7ok m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i insanlar\u0131n yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir \u015fey. Ben \u00f6yle biri de\u011filim. Ve a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7as\u0131 bununla fazla zaman kaybetmek istemiyorum. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu, <strong>i\u00e7erik yazar\u0131<\/strong> olarak ilerlemek istedi\u011fim yolda beni yava\u015flat\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u00d6yle de\u011fil mi ama? Her yaz\u0131da <strong>kusursuz olmak i\u00e7in<\/strong> bu kadar zaman harcarsam yazmak istedi\u011fim di\u011fer konulara ne zaman ge\u00e7ece\u011fim?<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_51686\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-51686\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-51686\" src=\"http:\/\/binkelam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/mukemmel-olmaya-calismak.jpg\" alt=\"m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" title=\"\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-51686\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Hayat k\u0131sa, m\u00fckemmel olmak i\u00e7in kendinizi par\u00e7alamay\u0131n.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bence bu, <strong>m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i insan<\/strong> tipinin b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7eli\u015fkilerinden biri. Y\u00fcksek hedefler ve standartlar belirleyip onlara uyma e\u011filimi y\u00fczeysel bak\u0131\u015fta k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u00fcyor. Fakat her \u015fey i\u00e7in y\u00fcksek standartlar\u0131n\u0131z oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsenize\u2026 G\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kusursuzlu\u011fa dikmi\u015f bir insan, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck b\u00fcy\u00fck, \u00f6nemli \u00f6nemsiz fark etmeksizin her \u015feyde kusursuz olmak isteyecek. 1 saatte en az\u0131ndan idare eder seviyede yapabilece\u011fi bir i\u015f i\u00e7in belki 5 saat harcayacak. \u0130dare eder seviyesi ona yetmiyor. \u0130yi bile yetmiyor. Daha fazlas\u0131 gerekiyor.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bunun ciddi bir zaman kayb\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fme riski yok mu? Bana g\u00f6re var. Hem de fazlas\u0131yla.<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_86 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseprofile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/kusursuz-olmaya-calismak-nasil-birakiriz\/#Neden_Kusursuz_Olmaya_Calisiyoruz\" >Neden Kusursuz Olmaya \u00c7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/kusursuz-olmaya-calismak-nasil-birakiriz\/#Bu_Donguden_Nasil_Cikabiliriz\" >Bu D\u00f6ng\u00fcden Nas\u0131l \u00c7\u0131kabiliriz?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Neden_Kusursuz_Olmaya_Calisiyoruz\"><\/span><strong><em>Neden Kusursuz Olmaya \u00c7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz?<\/em><\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Kusursuz olmaya bu kadar \u00f6nem vermemizin sebeplerinden biri ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olma kayg\u0131s\u0131 ve olumsuz ele\u015ftirilerden fazla korkmak. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i insanlar i\u00e7in bu karabasan gibi bir \u015fey. Bu durumlar\u0131 ya\u015famamak i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmel olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlar. Muhtemelen s\u00fcrekli bir kayg\u0131 i\u00e7indeler. Zihinleri hi\u00e7 susmuyor. Bu \u00e7ok yorucu olmal\u0131. Ben yazarken bile yoruldum.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bir de ara tonlar\u0131 hi\u00e7 g\u00f6rememek var. Ya siyah ya beyaz. Ya m\u00fckemmel ya de\u011fil. Ortas\u0131 yok.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">M\u00fckemmel de\u011filse yok saymak olay\u0131n\u0131 da atlamayal\u0131m. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum, bir yaz\u0131 i\u00e7in ara\u015ft\u0131rma yapm\u0131\u015f\u0131m. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f\u0131m, u\u011fra\u015fm\u0131\u015f\u0131m. \u00d6zg\u00fcn ve d\u00fczg\u00fcn olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7aba g\u00f6stermi\u015fim. Kafam, g\u00f6zlerim, s\u0131rt\u0131m yorulmu\u015f. Ben yazabilen biriysem (\u00f6yleyim) ve b\u00f6yle u\u011fra\u015fm\u0131\u015fsam ortaya yay\u0131nlanabilir nitelikte bir yaz\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kar. Bu da bana yeter. Kendi yapabilece\u011fimin en iyisini yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131m tabii ki. Ama bunu yapabildi\u011fime karar vermem \u00e7ok uzun s\u00fcrmez. S\u00fcrmemeli. Hayat o kadar uzun de\u011fil zaten.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_51687\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-51687\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-51687\" src=\"http:\/\/binkelam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/kusursuz-olmaya-calismayi-birakmak.jpg\" alt=\"kusursuz olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktan nas\u0131l kurtuluruz\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" title=\"\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-51687\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">B\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u015feyler de\u011fil, b\u0131rakamad\u0131klar\u0131m yoruyordu.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Kusursuz olma d\u00f6ng\u00fcs\u00fcne giren insanlar\u0131n genel s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131 <strong>kayg\u0131l\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler<\/strong> asl\u0131nda. Mesela:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ya yapamazsam? Hadi yapt\u0131m\u2026 ya iyi yapamazsam?&#8230;\u00a0 Onu da yapt\u0131m\u2026ya daha iyisini yapamazsam?&#8230; En iyisini yapamazsam?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Aman Yarabbi, bir hata yapt\u0131m! Nas\u0131l olur? Neden? Yetersiz miyim? Beceriksiz miyim? Art\u0131k beni be\u011fenmeyecekler.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Onu \/ bunu \/ \u015funu kusursuz bir \u015fekilde yapmal\u0131y\u0131m. Yapamazsam? Gelecekteki hayat\u0131m nas\u0131l olur, peri\u015fan olurum. Kim bilir ba\u015f\u0131ma ne k\u00f6t\u00fc \u015feyler gelir.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok yorucu bir ruh hali. Acaba buna mahkum olmak zorunlu mu? B\u00f6yle biri kendine kar\u015f\u0131 daha \u015fefkatli ve anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 birine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015femez mi?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Evet, d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir. Bu y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc tamamen ortadan kald\u0131ramaz belki ama bask\u0131y\u0131 hafifletebilir.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bunu sa\u011flamak kolay olur mu? Muhtemelen kolay olmayacak. Ortada yerle\u015fmi\u015f bir ki\u015filik \u00f6zelli\u011fi var. \u0130nsan\u0131 y\u0131pratan bir \u00f6zellik bu. Olu\u015fmas\u0131, yerle\u015fmesi bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 ise, ba\u015f edilmesi ve en az\u0131ndan hafifletilmesi de bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 olacak. M\u00fccadele etmek, \u00e7aba g\u00f6stermek gerekecek.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Fakat sonu\u00e7lar\u0131na de\u011fer, say\u0131n m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i. \u00dcst\u00fcnden bir y\u00fck kalkm\u0131\u015f gibi hissedersin.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_51688\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-51688\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-51688\" src=\"http:\/\/binkelam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/kusursuz-olmaya-calismaktan-kurtulmak.jpg\" alt=\"kusursuz olma \u00e7abas\u0131 \u00e7ok yorucudur. \" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" title=\"\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-51688\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Kusursuz olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131n ve biraz rahatlay\u0131n.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Bu_Donguden_Nasil_Cikabiliriz\"><\/span><strong><em>Bu D\u00f6ng\u00fcden Nas\u0131l \u00c7\u0131kabiliriz?<\/em><\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><strong>Kusursuz olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak<\/strong> art\u0131k \u00e7ok yorucu hale mi geldi? Zaman kaybetmeden bu a\u011f\u0131r y\u00fck\u00fc hafifletmek i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalara ba\u015flamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc siz bu y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc kontrol etmekte geciktik\u00e7e o daha da g\u00fc\u00e7lenir.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Herhangi bir \u015feydeki performans\u0131n\u0131z beklentinizin (Veya birilerinin beklentisinin) alt\u0131nda m\u0131 kald\u0131? Bunu genellemeyin. Bu, sizin b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcyle ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z veya beceriksiz yapmaz. Hi\u00e7 kimse her alanda iyi veya en iyi olamaz. M\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i, ula\u015f\u0131labilir hedefler belirleyin. En a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dan en tepeyi hedeflemeyin. \u00d6nce aradaki basamaklar\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Birini, sonra birini daha\u2026 Bu daha az yorar ve tepeye yakla\u015fmay\u0131 kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sevdi\u011finiz biri size bir s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131nca ne yapars\u0131n\u0131z? Ona nezaket ve anlay\u0131\u015f g\u00f6sterirsiniz. Kat\u0131 bir \u015fekilde yakla\u015fmazs\u0131n\u0131z. Bu \u015fefkati, bu \u00f6zen ve anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 siz de hak ediyorsunuz.\u00a0 Kendinize de b\u00f6yle yakla\u015fmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">B\u00fcy\u00fck i\u015fleri b\u00f6lmek de i\u015fe yarar. <strong>M\u00fckemmel olmak<\/strong> isteyen biri b\u00fcy\u00fck bir proje, g\u00f6rev veya sorumluluk kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda normalden fazla strese girebilir. Ad\u0131m ad\u0131m ilerleyin.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bu d\u00f6ng\u00fc k\u0131r\u0131labilir.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ama bir anda de\u011fil. Yava\u015f yava\u015f.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bu yaz\u0131ya ba\u015flarken ortaya iyi bir i\u015f \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131 isterim. Konu ilgi \u00e7eksin, imla hatalar\u0131, kopukluklar, \u00e7ok&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":51685,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[44,3312],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-51682","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yasam","category-ic-dunyamiz"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51682","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=51682"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51682\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":51689,"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51682\/revisions\/51689"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/51685"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=51682"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=51682"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/binkelam.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=51682"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}